Bullying and hating thyself: Let the truth be told

Bullying and self-hate is a very sensitive topic to handle no matter what age you are. You may find that it applies to teenagers the most but it’s worth mentioning that adults experience this from time to time. Everyone is battling demons within, and so without, even the bullies themselves are struggling to get through their day-to-day major issues, causing them to throw their negativity onto specific people around them.

It may be something you’re experiencing due to your weight; a specific condition you have or the way you look. But I can tell you that even the person you regard as one of the prettiest people around feel that they have flaws within themselves, whether that’s in their body or facial features. So don’t be so hard on yourself.

Below is a statement from Dana Falsetti, an important one which proves that many people are experiencing bullying and self-hatred which also stems from bullying too.

Wednesday 27th of April 2016

“I get emails every week from teenage girls who are being severely bullied, called terrible names, made to feel lesser because of how they look.

I get emails from women 50+ who are just starting to understand that they are allowed to be kind to themselves.

I get emails from men who are experiencing the same.

Most tell me they’re depressed and just trying not hate themselves. Looking for guidance and assurance that they are worthy as they are. We spend so much time trying to be what everybody else needs us to be that we can get lost along the way. But you have the authority, we all do, to be free from that burden.

What’s more – you may feel isolated in your sadness or pain, but you are not. I’ve come to realize more than ever that we all experience pain and loss and hurt just the same. In fact, that kind of darkness or emptiness is what brings many of us to the practice. There is somebody else who feels alone for the exact same reason you do. I felt so alone in my misery until I shared it openly here, and saw that thousands of you felt the same. So now I share all the love I have to give and hope that it will continue to spread.

As one of my friends said earlier, our superpower is love. I believe that wholeheartedly, and I believe it needs to come from within, from a place of love for yourself. This is just one of the reasons I practice. Asana literally means seat. If I can sit with myself in the most challenging moments on my mat, if I can have a home in my body no matter what is going on outside of it, I am ready for anything. Don’t fight those uncomfortable moments. They’re teaching you how to live. How to be ready to embrace the truth, that we all have the power to turn off the voices that tell us we’re not enough, and just be.”

Dana

Photo by: Cheyenne Gil

I love the words of Dana, it teaches you not to give control to those who call you names because of the way you look, that you cannot please everyone and that is true for each and every one of us on this planet. There is always someone you can relate to and talk to, there is always someone who has been through the exact or similar scenario that you have been through that walks amongst you with confidence which was once invisible to many. So whenever you feel down in the dumps, I encourage you not to be afraid to pour your heart out to someone, especially those who are close to you, and if there is no one close to you then reach out with a private message on social media to someone who’s indirectly defending your battles. Just like those who have reached out to Dana.

Guidance is everywhere — look all around you, the direction to head towards has been in front of you all along. Love is endless, a click on a few buttons to reach out is close by; many love you, so don’t feel belittled by the minority that speak with miserable judgement. Instead, look at yourself and think about all of the good things you have about yourself, because I can be sure that most people lean towards finding more bad things about themselves when really and truly they have many good things to say.

With all this, life will be much brighter. You could be male or female, transgender or transsexual, twelve or sixty, chubby or skinny — it doesn’t matter, because you’re not the only one, plus there is no definition which supports what is “Normal,” or beautiful. It’s just……………………

ALL PERCEPTION!!! 

Written by: Justin J. White

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SOCIAL COMMUNITY SHOWS THEIR SOLIDARITY WITH THE VICTIMS OF THE TERROR ATTACKS IN BRUSSELS

 

I woke up this morning with the news that two bombs exploded at 8 am at the Brussels Airport. Two hours later I made a post on our facebook page about the attacks. Since then I was in shock and I read about it on the daily mail page:

Cowering under desks and running for their lives, this is the terrifying moment passengers were caught up in a suicide bomb attack at Brussels Airport today in a series of blasts that have killed at least 34 people across the city.

Witnesses described apocalyptic scenes with blood and ‘dismembered bodies everywhere’ after two blasts rocked the terminal at around 8am (7am GMT), killing at least 14 people and injuring 35 others.

Then 79 minutes later at 9.19am, at least 20 people were killed and 55 injured, some critically, when a blast hit a Metro station just 400 metres from the EU headquarters in the city centre.

At the airport, there were reports of a firefight between police and the attackers who shouted in Arabic moments before detonating their bombs. A Kalashnikov was later recovered from the scene.

The blasts, which detonated near the American Airlines and Brussels airlines check-in desks, sent shockwaves through the terminal building, shattering windows and knocking roof tiles off the ceiling as terrified passengers ran for their lives.

The explosions have left countries worldwide reeling, with security placed on high alert, flights cancelled, Eurostar services suspended and France’s border with Belgium shut down. 

Two suspects were arrested a mile from the Maelbeek metro station at around 11am as hundreds of troops and police flooded the streets of Brussels in the hunt for members of the terror cell.

Soldiers have been also been deployed at the airport and other key locations across Brussels as Belgium raised security to its maximum level.

The bombings come just a day after the Belgium Interior Minister warned of possible revenge attacks after the arrest of Paris massacre suspect Salah Abdeslam in the city on Friday. 

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The latest update I saw, was that 30 people were killed and at least 150 people were hurt. All information is subject to change at this moment. I also saw that that police catched two people, near the Malbeek train station where the third bomb detonated – see here. No one knows at the moment if there are more attackers on the run. All trains and flights have been cancelled. And I heard on the radio, how people living nearby help the victims or give them shelter. People are told to better stay at home.
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Photo by DPA

And all I can ask myself, why did this happen? Why do we allow these evil people to destroy our lives? Why weren’t there more security people since they already expected attacks? But all these questions don’t change the situation.
Therefore, the Style & Curve team and our partners from ComeSeeTv would like to express our deepest condolences to the victims and hurt people and their familys. We don’t believe in revenge – Therefore we want to send our LOVE to all our fans and followers from Belgium and nearby.
I am also happy to see the solidarity for the victims online. Hashtags like #Brussels #JeSuisBruxelles, #PrayForBruxelles and #PrayForBelgium are to find on social media, like Instagram. The cover pic which I choosed is already the most shared picture. See below a few of them:

¡Muchísimos ánimos a Bruselas por los atentados! 😭 #jesuisbruxelles

A photo posted by GH↔MYHYV (@gh_myh) on

#prayforbruxelles 😪😡

A photo posted by @martin.darri on

I am glad to see all the solidarity, but I still need to stay quite for the rest of the day. It is really not easy to see this for me, I can only imagine how terrible it is for everyone directly involved.

We are praying for you and we support you – #jesuisbruxelles

Your #StyleAndCurve team ;*