This is a story of a woman I care for deeply. I am not directly related to her, but she is a part of my life. This is less a story, but rather a prayer for her to change for the better!
I love this woman and so does her family, but she tries too hard to fit in her perfect and ideal image of herself and life in general. She suffers from it, because deep down inside she thinks she is not good enough and maybe not worth to have a happy life. I tried to build her up several times and still she doesn’t change.
I guess the reason is her difficult life. If you feel all lifelong that you must do more to receive love, then you surely think that you are ‘not good enough’. This behaving is a program that gets created in your childhood and you suffer from it for the rest of your life.
This is what the ‘NOT-GOOD-ENOUGH PROGRAM’ makes with you:
- You go on diets, because you think you will only be better when you are thin as the women on TV.
- You become fanatic about having a clean apartment and spend several hours a day cleaning.
- You become a perfectionist and everything should be perfectly organised, even a small party for your kids.
- You only feel good when you strive to the ideal image of you and try to avoid admitting that you are not good enough.
The truth is that you need to admit to not be good enough to get over this evil program. Accept the chaos, because chaos is a happy life! Once you accept that you are not good enough, or that you will never be perfect you will realize that it’s not so bad to be imperfect. You are still alive! Your husband, kids and family still love you. They know you are not perfect and they also see that you try to be perfect too hard, but they can’t stop you. It ´must come within you. You have to realize it yourself. It’s your life, your thoughts and your challenges!
Just believe me, accepting that you are not perfect and seeing how your life improves afterwards is important for you. Otherwise, you will fail in whatever you try to do. You will also have to get sick if you don’t change, because your inner suffering is too much for your body to handle. Don’t strive to be perfect, strive to be you, O!
I know that this is not only of one individual, it is a story of many. Many women and men out there suffer from the ‘not-good-enough program’ and they clearly shouldn’t, because it causes too much distress to your life and loved ones. Life is hard and it sucks most of the time, but you shouldn’t make it worst by thinking you deserve to be like that, because you are not good enough. I can understand you and many other women can too, we all have this program in us; but we need to fight against it with love to overcome the negative view of us!
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