FACEBOOK RESTRICTING THE VIEWS ON PLUS SIZE MODELS ON THE STYLE & CURVE FANPAGE + UPDATES ON TESS HOLLIDAY AND ON LYZ LUPO

Today was a very sad day for Style & Curve. Everyday, I post pictures of plus size models on Facebook, but today Facebook started to restrict the visibility of those pictures. No one has reported my page, because no picture was removed by Facebook. I also have no information as to why they need to restrict my picture posts, plus, most of all, I see no violation of any Facebook rules at all. All models shared wear at least underwear, swimwear or dresses. We show no vulgar picture and if we share images of plus size models wearing only lace and no bra, then I can asure Facebook that those pictures are edited. No model nor photographer that we share wants problem with Facebook about free nip***! We are a page who takes care of what we share, because we are a magazine that offers online promotion for plus size models or brands and that wants to improve the self esteem of our plus size fans. Vulgar nudity is not welcome on our page!

RESTRICTING VIEWS ON PLUS SIZE MODELS = CYBERBULLYING & BOYDYSHAMING?

Therefore I don’t understand why the picture posts are restricted. Previously I’ve shared images of Eva Believer plus Daniela Sesay, and Facebook started to restrict them, but I removed them myself. Today I shared the plus size models Laura Lee, Morgan Louise, Myself (@lyzlupo) and the same picture of Eva Believer again, but all of these posts got NO LIKES. Forthermore, only 20 – 30 people were able to see these posts. All 4 picture posts are restricted and I have no clue why! This looks to me like we are getting body shamed by facebook.

Since Facebook was not showing my posts, I used my Instagram account @styleandcurve to publish my thoughts as you can see below.

Here I thought everything was still ok:

#LoveYourBody with @misslauraleej : "I love every inch of me!" That includes my belly, my cellulite, rolls, stretch marks, scars, EVERYTHING! Now look in that mirror and see all the beauty we see in you. Stop being your worst enemy, stop looking for flaws, love yourself, say I AM BEAUTIFUL because you are. Believe in you and stop hiding. If you want to lose weight or gain it, then do it. But never let words of others dull your sparkle, BE YOU.' #UNTOUCHED #UNPHOTOSHOPPED #StyleAndCurveMag #styleandcurve #celluliteandall #honormycurves #lifethrowscurves #effyourbeautystandards #goldenconfidence #allaboutthatcurvylife #denim #bodysuit Photographer | @desbasphotography HMUA | @rebeccalballister #TagsForLikes #followme #follow4follow #like4like #follow #likes4likes #likeforlike #likeforfollow #style #claimyourcurvesarebeYOUtiful #fashion #loveyourbody #loveyourself #kimkardashian #kyliejenner #selenagomez @instylemagazine @glamourmag @buzzfeedstyle @yahoostyle

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But then I realized quickly that something is wrong on facebook since I got no likes at all. These are the words I used to show the unfairness done by Facebook:

I gotta give #facebook something sexy to work with today. They restricted the views of 3 pictures that I posted today already of plus size women. This is not the first time this happened to us, but now I want strike back! #restrictedposts Model: @moloweez Photo: @i.mays #StyleAndCurveMag #styleandcurve #plussize #plussizeoutfit #celebratemysize #honormycurves #effyourbeautystandards #goldenconfidence #TagsForLikes #tagstagramers #followme #follow4follow #like4like #follow #likes4likes #likeforlike #likeforfollow #style #claimyourcurvesarebeYOUtiful #fashion #loveyourbody #loveyourself #kimkardashian #kyliejenner #selenagomez @instyleuk @dailymail @cosmopolitan @instylemagazine @glamourmag @buzzfeedstyle @yahoostyle

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Dear @zuck from @facebook, why do you restrict the views of my picture posts? What did I do wrong? I don't promote porn, because I don't show nude t*** and a***. I only promote curvy women. Why do you restrict the views on these beautiful women? I am treated by you like a criminal for reasons I don't even understand. Is someone reporting my page for nudity or other reasons? Then why don't you inform me about those reports? All you do instead is restricting the views of my picture posts. I have to inform you that what you do on our Facebook Page looks like #bodyshaming, because you only restrict the posts of #plussizewomen. All the other posts are visible still. I think this is a very unfair! With this you do not only make me angry, but also models like, @misslauraleej, @eva_believer and @moloweez, because they are the models I shared today. I am not going to stay quite now. I will make your cruel treatment public now. Kind regards, @lyzlupo from @styleandcurve magazine. #StyleAndCurveMag #styleandcurve #plussize #celebratemysize #honormycurves #effyourbeautystandards #goldenconfidence #TagsForLikes #tagstagramers #followme #follow4follow #like4like #follow #likes4likes #likeforlike #likeforfollow #claimyourcurvesarebeYOUtiful #loveyourbody #loveyourself #kimkardashian #kyliejenner #selenagomez @huffpostde @dailymail @buzzfeed

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This is a picture I shared on #facebook 8 hours ago and it got NO LIKES at all. This is not normal when you would expect between 150-200 likes at least. I have no explanation from @zuck and @facebook as to why they needed to restrict the visibility on @facebook.com/styleandcurve. Facebook only restricted the views of posts with plus size models. All other posts and reposts are still visible. I think this discrimination of plus size women done by facebook has to stop! If you agree with me then #repost this. Furthermore, I am writing right now also an article about this incident with the prove of the restriction. Kind regards @lyzlupo from @styleandcurve. Model: @eva_believer For @deliciousdollsmagazine Photography: Teri V Photography Lingerie: New Look

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#STYLEANDCURVE WON'T POST THIS WEEKEND OR EVEN THE DAYS AFTER! Due to some problems with #facebook I decided to not post anything anymore here until the issue is not cleared. The only thing that will follow is an article about facebook on our website www.stylencurve.com tomorrow, because I refuse to accept the discrimination of facebook regarding #PLUSSIZEWOMEN! @lyzlupo #StyleAndCurveMag #styleandcurve #plussize #plussizeoutfit #celebratemysize #honormycurves #effyourbeautystandards #goldenconfidence #TagsForLikes #tagstagramers #followme #follow4follow #like4like #follow #likes4likes #likeforlike #likeforfollow #style #claimyourcurvesarebeYOUtiful #fashion #loveyourbody #loveyourself #kimkardashian #kyliejenner #selenagomez @instyleuk @dailymail @cosmopolitan @instylemagazine @glamourmag @buzzfeedstyle @yahoostyle

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This tactic of Facebook to restrict the visibility is unfair and discriminating, because they only blocked the view of the posts of plus size models. All other posts and reposts are still visible as usual. What Facebook makes looks like #bodyshaming! It hasn’t only happened to my picture, but also to the posts of the other models, therefore I made screenshots to document their treatment. Find the files below:

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Now, I could either calm down about this, ignore it and just keep on posting as usuall. Unfortunately, this is not why I became active in the plus size community. I want to achieve a change, I want to stop the discrimination on plus size women on social media. I know there are many more plus size women who have suffered from this and I know how they feel, because this is when all the insecurities about our bodies come back. In my case, as the owner of a magazine that works hard on promoting plus size models and improving the self esteem of our plus size fans, it feels like a slap in the face to see that I can post as much as I want to, but no one will see it. To me this looks indeed like cyberbullying and body shaming towards plus size women, done by facebook directly. I am very hurt and dissapointed by Facebook. I wished they would comment on this and explain at least what I did wrong. I know I did not do anything legally wrong, so therefore this treatment is cruel. It hurts my heart to see how my work is getting treated, while there are so many pages out there that show content that shouldn’t even be made public. This is not freedom of speech anymore!

OTHER PLUS SIZE VICTIMS WHO SUFFERED FROM BULLYING BY SOCIAL MEDIA PAGES

Unfortunatly, this is not the first time social media pages were bodyshaming plus size women.

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Even the famous plus size model Tess Holliday experienced such treatment when a picture of her was removed by Facebook, because it was violating its ‘health and fitness’ advertising policy. Read more here: https://www.theguardian.com/technology/2016/may/23/facebook-bans-photo-plus-sized-model-tess-holliday-ad-guidelines.
And it did not only happen on Facebook, but on Instagram too, when this picture of the inspiring Aarti Dubey from Curves Become Her was removed. According to Instagram it was done ‘accidently,’ but the hurt was done already. Read more about this here: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-3632677/Aarti-Olivia-Dubey-outraged-Instagram-accidentally-removes-bikini-picture-plus-size-model-posted-page.html.

– UPDATE (08-22-2016) ON TESS HOLLIDAY vs FACEBOOK:

‘Tess Holliday was blocked from Facebook for calling out her harassers’ – Article by Revelist.com

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Quotes:

‘Plus-size model Tess Holliday says she’s been blocked from her own Facebook account for the past four days.

According to the model, the block happened after she posted screenshots of harassing messages she’d received on the platform. 

She says she initially posted the screenshots to Facebook both for awareness of social media bullying and because Facebook doesn’t do enough to help stop it.

“This time it really upset me because they banned the person getting abused [Holliday], which clearly shows that they just block anyone whose image gets reported instead of looking into it … I honestly just think that if they’re going to take such initiatives against bullying and harassment then they really need to do their due diligence,” she said.’

– UPDATE (08-23-2016) –  LYZ LUPO NOW EVEN RESTRICTED ON HER OWN PROFILE PAGE

The sad truth is that although I thought the restriction is finally over, I had to realize this morning that it is still active. I shared this link on my fanpage and I got no more likes, nor comments. Then I shared the link of this article on my profile page already 3 x times yesterday night and 2 x again this morning, but everytime I got the notification that something didn’t work out correctly and that the posting was not successful. I made then a screenshot of my post of this article on my fanpage for Style & Curve shared it on my profile and on the fanpage and all of the sudden it can be seen. This made me realize that facebook is now blocking me from even posting my website link.

So again I had to go to Instagram to make it public:

I wrote the article about the restriction by Facebook (LINK IN BIO or below), but now this article is hidden on the FANPAGE. Plus everytime I shared it on my Facebook profile page, they remove it within 5 seconds. I don't know what to do anymore. I am deeply saddened about this. This is like online prison. 😢😢😢 And @zuck from @facebook, I still don't know why you treat my page #styleandcurve on Facebook like this. There are stars who share their nipples freely and they have no problem at all, but when I share #plussizemodels you need to restrict the views? Why? Am I promoting terrible ugly monsters? Am I a dangerous criminal when I promote #plussizewomen? Am I a devilish person that has to be hidden from the world? What is wrong with my pages on #facebook? Why do you need to use tools that look like #bodyshaming on my online magazine and my own profile? LINK: https://stylencurve.com/facebook-bodyshaming-plus-size-models-on-the-style-curve-fanpage/

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– UPDATE (08-23-2016) –  NOW ALL ADMINS CAN’T SEE THE POSTS ANYMORE

We the admins can’t see our own posts on the @styleandcurve page anymore. We can’t make our own picture posts anymore. Even links posted from our website are getting restricted by FB.
WE DIDNT BREAK ANY RULES; WE DONT SHOW NUDITY; WE ARE A SERIOUS PAGE AND WE GOT NO ANSWER FROM FB SINCE 5 DAYS!
This is why I had to create these 4 new pages. I hoped they accept posts shared from these pages and it worked so far today.
The 4 new pages are:
FASHION & RUNWAY – https://www.facebook.com/Style-Curve-Fashion-Runway-3090408
BEAUTY STYLE – https://www.facebook.com/Style-Curve-Beauty-Style-559391437
LIFE, LOVE, LIVING – https://www.facebook.com/Style-Curve-Life-Love-Living-19614
ENTERTAINMENT & FUN – https://www.facebook.com/Style-Curve-Entertainment-and-Fun-
> MAKE SURE YOU LIKE & SHARE THESE PAGES BEFORE OUR MAIN PAGE WILL GET REMOVED, BECAUSE WE THE ADMINS ARE REALLY VERY WORRIED RIGHT NOW!!!!!

This kind of treatment is something I would expect for a page that shares porn or related things, but not for a body positive online magazine. The incident on my page and on Tess Holliday’s page makes me wonder if there are more plus size pages who suffer from this restriction right now?

All I want to do is to help plus size women to become more confident. Nothing more! I dont even share heavy BBWs, althought I should also think of them. But everytime I did this, Facebook remove it cause someone reported it.

I really hope this prejudice is over soon and that I get an answer for all of this.

I am emotionally so much down and I can’t take it any longer.

Kind regards from the dissapointed admins,

Lyz Lupo and Norman Spee.

 

 

Bullying and hating thyself: Let the truth be told

Bullying and self-hate is a very sensitive topic to handle no matter what age you are. You may find that it applies to teenagers the most but it’s worth mentioning that adults experience this from time to time. Everyone is battling demons within, and so without, even the bullies themselves are struggling to get through their day-to-day major issues, causing them to throw their negativity onto specific people around them.

It may be something you’re experiencing due to your weight; a specific condition you have or the way you look. But I can tell you that even the person you regard as one of the prettiest people around feel that they have flaws within themselves, whether that’s in their body or facial features. So don’t be so hard on yourself.

Below is a statement from Dana Falsetti, an important one which proves that many people are experiencing bullying and self-hatred which also stems from bullying too.

Wednesday 27th of April 2016

“I get emails every week from teenage girls who are being severely bullied, called terrible names, made to feel lesser because of how they look.

I get emails from women 50+ who are just starting to understand that they are allowed to be kind to themselves.

I get emails from men who are experiencing the same.

Most tell me they’re depressed and just trying not hate themselves. Looking for guidance and assurance that they are worthy as they are. We spend so much time trying to be what everybody else needs us to be that we can get lost along the way. But you have the authority, we all do, to be free from that burden.

What’s more – you may feel isolated in your sadness or pain, but you are not. I’ve come to realize more than ever that we all experience pain and loss and hurt just the same. In fact, that kind of darkness or emptiness is what brings many of us to the practice. There is somebody else who feels alone for the exact same reason you do. I felt so alone in my misery until I shared it openly here, and saw that thousands of you felt the same. So now I share all the love I have to give and hope that it will continue to spread.

As one of my friends said earlier, our superpower is love. I believe that wholeheartedly, and I believe it needs to come from within, from a place of love for yourself. This is just one of the reasons I practice. Asana literally means seat. If I can sit with myself in the most challenging moments on my mat, if I can have a home in my body no matter what is going on outside of it, I am ready for anything. Don’t fight those uncomfortable moments. They’re teaching you how to live. How to be ready to embrace the truth, that we all have the power to turn off the voices that tell us we’re not enough, and just be.”

Dana

Photo by: Cheyenne Gil

I love the words of Dana, it teaches you not to give control to those who call you names because of the way you look, that you cannot please everyone and that is true for each and every one of us on this planet. There is always someone you can relate to and talk to, there is always someone who has been through the exact or similar scenario that you have been through that walks amongst you with confidence which was once invisible to many. So whenever you feel down in the dumps, I encourage you not to be afraid to pour your heart out to someone, especially those who are close to you, and if there is no one close to you then reach out with a private message on social media to someone who’s indirectly defending your battles. Just like those who have reached out to Dana.

Guidance is everywhere — look all around you, the direction to head towards has been in front of you all along. Love is endless, a click on a few buttons to reach out is close by; many love you, so don’t feel belittled by the minority that speak with miserable judgement. Instead, look at yourself and think about all of the good things you have about yourself, because I can be sure that most people lean towards finding more bad things about themselves when really and truly they have many good things to say.

With all this, life will be much brighter. You could be male or female, transgender or transsexual, twelve or sixty, chubby or skinny — it doesn’t matter, because you’re not the only one, plus there is no definition which supports what is “Normal,” or beautiful. It’s just……………………

ALL PERCEPTION!!! 

Written by: Justin J. White

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